My Mr. Right

When I was young, my friends and I would write descriptions of our Mr. Right. I couldn’t help but recall those days. We got our crumpled notes and started digging some available space to write into. I usually have it bulleted something like this

• Tall
• Dark
• Handsome
• Gentleman

With these characteristics in mind, we would swoon to every “Mr. Right” in the campus and start blinking some lashes just to catch their attention. But wait a minute, we were not like those blonde girls you see on TV. We were subtle on our quest for Mr. Right. We can’t afford to be caught love struck, can we? We have female dignity to protect. We had crushes and not so much of boyfriends. Well, those were the days.

             Time really changes us. There is no escaping from it.

As time goes by, we become a little reserved, matured and surer of what we need rather than what we want in life. We make matured choices and definitely we redefined Mr. Right – a man we want to share our life with forever!

Let me tell you my story about how I met my Mr. Right – my husband.

I worked in one of the BPO companies in the country. He also worked there. We met and became acquaintances. It never occurred to me having him as my boyfriend. Maybe, he is just a bit serious about anything (as far as the eyes can see). And for the record, he is so not like me. He is not the talky type. I am the talky type. At work, he just sat there and waited for my instructions as his Team leader and later Supervisor of the project (he became team leader and supervisor as well). What we had was just employee to employee relationship.

There was only one time when we got a serious talk about matters of the heart and I heard him tell his story. From the moment there, I know the man has sense and he is not boring at all.  He is a good man, so genuine in his conversation and very intelligent in his choice of words. One conversation led to series of conversations. Then he asked me out. One date led to another, and another, then more anothers.

Love sprang. I am sure about it. I never felt such joy with him. One moment I would stare at him and mused at myself: “This is not the guy on our paper. Yes, he is never the guy in the paper but he is my perfect guy – my Mr. Right.” One can never always be happy all the time. Of course there is sadness as well. And I also had my bitter share of it.

There were times in relationship when I grew insecurity for I have known about a girl he had been courting which didn’t turn well. As well all know that when insecurity is present in a relationship, everything goes wrong. I started to ask myself: “Am I just a cover-up to save his bruised male ego?” I was not sure if he’s ready for me – ready to start anew with me. And I prayed – I desperately to God. If he is the man for me, then he is. If not, be gone. Indeed, communication bridges any unspoken insecurities. We talked about the ordeal which I underwent. I told him I don’t want to become a cover-up of whatever he was into back then. He said that he’s true. But doubts still clouded my relationship with him and I always would want to call it quits. But he never gave up on me. There are times that I would not text him, not talk to him, not minding him. But hurting him brought tears to my eyes. Then I realized, what a heck, this man is worth all my love as I am for his.

To cut the story short, I resigned from company and after a couple of months, he filed also his resignation and looked for a more stable work. This is to prepare ourselves for a future together. Then on the month of December 2008, he proposed to me and we have been married twice (civil wedding and church wedding). Although we are not yet blessed with a child, I know it will come. Now, I am with my Mr. Right. And with him, everything is going to be all right.

Here are pictures of our wedding I want to share to you. This is one of those cherished days of our lives.